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And I cook :)

The ample free time I have got has led me to discover A new love – Cooking !

My mom says that I am a very good cook but I think she is bias..

Anyways, this a random amateur attempt and I hope you guys try this out, if not already done that :

(P.S : I think it is a known recipe and I did not discover this.. but it is too yummy.. so I just had to share :p)

Instant Rava Uttapam.. 

(Since I was hungry and I couldn’t find anything else to eat)

Ingredients (I feel like the cookery show lady- iske liye humein chahiye.. )

1 cup semolina (rava)
1 tbsp ginger (adrak) – grate it
1 cup curd (dahi)
1/2 cup chopped onions
1/2 cup chopped tomatoes
2 tbsp chopped green chillies
Add any veggies you like….
I added grated beetroot and carrots, made it look colorful and also made it healthy 🙂
salt to taste – Namak, swadanusaar 😀
oil

Method (Ise banane ki vidhi )

  1. Heat a pan and roast the rava for 2-3 minutes.
  2. Combine the roasted semolina, ginger and curd in a bowl and mix well, adding water if required. make sure the paste is like semi-solid..
  3. Cover and keep aside to ferment for 40-60 minutes. This will also make the paste thicker , so keep it mind 🙂
  4. Add the salt and mix gently. you can add little chat masala, if you like chatpata food 🙂
  5. Heat the oil in a non-stick pan, pour a ladle-full of batter and spread it in circular motion to make a thin uttappa..
  6. Top it with little onions, tomatoes , veggies and the chillies
  7. Cook from one side, using little oil, turn over and cook from the other side. Be careful.. but remember, it is not as difficult as it looks..
  8. Make some more
  9. Serve hot with coconut/chana-dal chutney.
  10. Enjoy ! Relish !
  11. Try this and let me know how it turned out :)Sorry I forgot to click a picture 😦

    Hunger took over 😦

    But I am adding this image from google.. It looked more or less like this ..just that mine was more colorful 🙂

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P.P.S : This idea of food blog originated in my head thanks to my new pen-pal.. Midnight Shadow.. Thank you buddy 🙂

Random clicks.. A trip to the park

Give me a camera and I am the happiest person ever..

Some more random clicks !

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An Advertisement I love..

Have you seen this Titan ad ? It’s beautiful.. It makes me smile 🙂 Watch it Now !

Click of the day..

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The  white line is the sun-light immediate after the heavy rains ended..

 

Marital Rape.. Disgusting !

Marital Rape! Sensitive topic but the one that needs more discussion! Rape itself is a soul shattering tragedy that can strike any woman and when it happens within the confines of marriage and by your partner – it is not only soul shattering but is a blow to women’s self-respect and dignity. Men by nature are physically strong and when they showcase their strength by forced sex – then it’s a rape within the marital life.

While researching on the topic I came across lots of articles and printed material on the topic but struck me the most was the quote of the novelist Nilanjana Roy “all things we’ve been fighting for,” but said the government does not yet dare to tackle marital rape because it “strikes at the heart of the arranged marriage system. Aha! So here is the reason why marital rape is such a sensitive issue! Because it strikes at the traditional arranged marriage system but then isn’t arranged marriage another form of patriarchy – to have control over the newly married couple. However, this is a myth! It is not that arranged marriages means that your husband will be your rapist, here is the case where the man and woman chose each other and the woman now is being subjected to marital rape every night.

Over the years numerous countries have accepted rape within the marriage as a punishable crime barring the few countries where it is still an accepted norm to force oneself on one’s wife in the name of husbandly rights! If domestic violence is attacks on women’s self-respect, marital rape kills her soul and destroys her faith in the sanctity of marriage.

According to the facts and figures almost every second woman in the country is facing serious issues in her married life – be it domestic violence or sexual violence or Marital Rape as we know it. Husbands in all these cases have one thing in common and that is they are from patriarchal school of thought considering their wives as their properties and slaves. When a man considers his wife as a slave he treats her shabbily, abusers her physically, mentally and torture her with his hard-hitting words.

Unfortunately, India does not recognise sex within marriage sorry forced sex within marriage as RAPE! Why because it is sex within marriage is a husbandly right and WOMEN HAVE NO RIGHT to refuse her husband. In fact it is considered as mental cruelty against husband if a wife refuses her husband to have sex! Can you beat the irony here? Mental Cruelty against husband!? And what about the physical and sexual cruelty that man enforces on his woman? There is no account for that and absolutely no answer as well!
M is for Marital Rape! Sensitive topic but the one that needs more discussion! Rape itself is a soul shattering tragedy that can strike any woman and when it happens within the confines of marriage and by your partner – it is not only soul shattering but is a blow to women’s self-respect and dignity. Men by nature are physically strong and when they showcase their strength by forced sex – then it’s a rape within the marital life.
While researching on the topic I came across lots of articles and printed material on the topic but struck me the most was the quote of the novelist Nilanjana Roy “all things we’ve been fighting for,” but said the government does not yet dare to tackle marital rape because it “strikes at the heart of the arranged marriage system. Aha! So here is the reason why marital rape is such a sensitive issue! Because it strikes at the traditional arranged marriage system but then isn’t arranged marriage another form of patriarchy – to have control over the newly married couple. However, this is a myth! It is not that arranged marriages means that your husband will be your rapist, here is the case where the man and woman chose each other and the woman now is being subjected to marital rape every night.

Over the years numerous countries have accepted rape within the marriage as a punishable crime barring the few countries where it is still an accepted norm to force oneself on one’s wife in the name of husbandly rights! If domestic violence is attacks on women’s self-respect, marital rape kills her soul and destroys her faith in the sanctity of marriage.

Unfortunately, India does not recognise sex within marriage sorry forced sex within marriage as RAPE! Why because it is sex within marriage is a husbandly right and WOMEN HAVE NO RIGHT to refuse her husband. In fact it is considered as mental cruelty against husband if a wife refuses her husband to have sex! Can you beat the irony here? Mental Cruelty against husband!? And what about the physical and sexual cruelty that man enforces on his woman? There is no account for that and absolutely no answer as well!

Words (Lyrics) that make my heart melt ..

All of a sudden today I feel like being lost in poetry, nazm.. songs with awesome lyrics..

Humne dekhi hai un aankhon ki mehakti khushboo..
Haath se chhoo ke ise rishton ka ilzaam na do..
Sirf ehsaas hai ye rooh se mehsoos karo..
Pyaar ko pyaar hi rehne do ..
Koi naam na do..

I am still one of those people who fall in love with people who say stuff like this.. not the heavy hindi/urdu stuff that I would not understand.. but something like the above that’s beautifully woven with simple words.. it makes my heart melt..

Like in Zindagi na milegi dobara..When Imraan quotes this, I fall in love..
(This is by Raghupati Sahai Firaq Gorakhpuri)
Shaam bhi thi dhua dhua..husn bhi tha udaas udaas..
dil ko kayee kahaniyaa yaad si aa kar reh gayi..
kehni thi tumse jo baat..
zubaan tak aayi nahi .. hamari kahani to adhuri hi reh gayi !

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I have always been a fan of such words.. be it in a dialogue..a song..anything
Here are a few favourites..

 1. Iss mod se jaate hain (Aandhi)

aandhi ki tarah ud kar ek raah guzarti hai,
sharmaati hui koi, qadmon se utarti hai,
ye soch ke baithi hun,in reshmi raahon mein..
ek raah to wo hogi
tum tak jo pahuchti hai,

iss mod se jaati hai.. 

2.Mera kuch saaman (Ijazat)
(This is a song where the female lead is asking the lover to return her memories, after a break-up.. So beautifully written.. unbelievable)

Ek akeli chhatri mein jab aadhe-aadhe bheeg rahe the,
Aadhe sookhe, aadhe geele, sookha to main le aayi thi,
Gila mann shaayad bistar ke paas pada ho,
Woh bhijwa do, mera woh saamaan lauta do…

3. Filhaal (Filhaal)

Dil hi mein rehta, aankhon mein behta hai,
Kachcha sa ek khwaab hai,
Lagta sawaal hai, shaayad jawaab hai,
Dil phir bhi betaab hai,
Yeh sukoon hai to hai, yeh junoon hai to hai,
Khoobsurat hai, jee lene de…

Pehle se likha kuchh bhi nahin,
Roz naya kuchh likhti hai tu,
Jo bhi likha hai, dil se jiya hai,
Yeh lamha filhaal jee lene de…

4. Bol na halke halke (Jhoom Barabar Jhoom)

Aa neend ka sauda karein
Ek khwaab de ek khwaab le
Ek khwaab to aankhon mein hai
Ek chand ke takiye tale
Kitne dino se yeh asmaan bhi
soya nahi hai
Isko sula de…

5. Chupke Se (Saathiya)

Farvari ki sardiyon ki dhoop mein
Moondi-moondi akhiyon se dekhna
Haath ki aad se
Nimmi-nimmi thand aur aag mein
Haule-haule maarwa ke raag mein
Meer ki baat ho….
Another one from the movie : Mera Yaar milla de

Maine pota-pota falak chhaana, maine tote-tote taare chune
Sirf ek teri aahat ke liye kankad, patthar, but saare sune
Hun mainey te ruswaaiyaan..

Aa dekh meri peshaani ko taqdeer ke harfe likkhe hain..
Main kitni baar pukaarun tujhe, tere naam ke safhe likkhe hain..

6. Koi Fariyaad (Tum Bin)

Raah chalte huve aksar yeh ghumaan hota hai..
Woh nazar chupke mujhe dekh rahi ho jaise
Ek lamhe mein simat aaya hai sadiyon ka safar..
Zindagi tej bahut tej chali ho jaise…

7. O Saathi Re (Omkara)

Aa chal din ko rokein, dhoop ke peechhe daudein
Chhaon chhue na..
Aa chal din ko rokein, dhoop ke peechhe daudein
Chhaon chhue na..

ere dohre badan mein, sil jaaungi re
Jab karvat lega, chhil jaaungi re..
8. Hoton se choo lo tum (Prem Geet)
Jag ne Chinaa Mujhse, Mujhe Jo Bhi Lagaa Pyara..
Sab Jitaa Kiye Mujhse, Main Har Dum Hi Hara…
Tum Haar Ke Dil Apna..
Meri Jeet Amar Kar Do

9. Kyon (Barfi!)
Na harf kharch karna tum..
Na harf kharch hum karenge..
Nazar ki syahi se likhenge..
Tujhe hazar chitthiyaan khamoshi jhidkiyaan..
Tere pate pe bhej denge..
Last but never the least
10. Ajeeb Daastaan hai ye (Dil apna aur preet paraya)
Mubaarakein Tumhe Ke Tum..
Kisi Ke Noor Ho Gaye..
Kisi Ke Itne Paas Ho..
Ke Sab Se Door Ho Gaye..
Kisi Ka Pyaar Leke Tum..
Naya Jahan Basaaoge..
Yeh Shaam Jab Bhi Aayegi..
Tum Humko Yaad Aaoge…

Quarter Life Lessons

As I complete being 25 , looking quarter-life crisis squarely in the eye, I’ve realised that my life has not been short of its share of drama. Just going back  four years could offer to be one of the most thrilling roller coaster rides I’ve been on. More importantly, other than shaping you into the person you will henceforth be known as, your early 20s also dish out life’s most important lessons. 1. Your college life is when life will be lived at its best.  You will always look back at your college self with envy. You will yearn for the days you slouched on the bean bag, staring at the ceiling fan, as its rotations kept you cool. You will long for the nights you spent dancing away, without a single thought about the future. You will reminisce about the impromptu budget holidays you took, and pine for that life with what now seems like burdened with no responsibility. **

 2. People will hurt you, whether it’s your friends or partners. There’s almost no way you can stop that. What you need to figure out is if it’s worth keeping them in your lives. Will you be able to trust them? More importantly, can you forgive them? If your answer  is ‘no’ to both, then you’ve got to be selfish and let go. Without them being thrown in your face every day, could actually help you come to terms with it, and if you’re lucky, in a few years you’ll learn to forgive and forget. Don’t let a fake friendship ruin all your memories together.
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 3. Unfortunately, your heart will break – if you’re lucky, just once. Your daily life which included long night phone calls, surprises, gifts and more than a few buckets of love, will suddenly feel empty. You won’t know what to do with your days, and you’ll wonder how you ever fell asleep before. Suddenly, almost coincidentally, you will notice that the most lovelorn songs will play on the radio, and you will be perfectly content with that. A few songs will seem like it had been written just for you, and these will play on loop in your head and music player. But don’t try to snap yourself out of it immediately – a good relationship deserves its mourning period. So listen to the lovesick songs, shed  the tears at night, and look at the cutest couple pictures you had clicked, but remember, you did survive without your ex before, and you will again.
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 4. You will realise that your parents were right about a lot of things. Remember that time your parents told you that you’ll be more careful spending your own money than you were, spending theirs? Remember that time when your parents told you how bad the corporate world was, but you insisted you wanted to fast forward to it – just because it was so cool ? Remember that time when your parents advised you to spend more time with your family, especially your grandparents? They were right about it all – you budget your expenses, you hate the corporate world, and you miss your family the most now, especially the ones who’ve passed away.
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 5. You will learn how to handle your finances. It doesn’t matter if you think you 2 + 2 is  5, you’ll take help, or maybe you’ll learn on the way, but at the end of the day you will create a budget (a mental one, even) when your salary comes in. You will learn how to invest to save tax, and if that doesn’t make you feel like a grown-up, nothing will.
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 6. You will learn who your real friends are – they aren’t the ones who you party all night with – they are the ones who make sure you get home, the ones who understand what your family means to you, the ones who watch the sunrise with you despite having to be at work early that morning, the ones who hear the distress and pain in your voice from miles away and travel that distance to be with you, the ones you can talk to about anything under the sun (yes, literally, everything!)
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 7. You will learn to manage your time. To-do lists will be never ending, but you’ll learn to schedule and prioritize. You will learn that you can’t do everything you want to on one day, everyday. Time has never been more precious to you, and if at the end of the day, you still get a good night’s sleep, then you’re doing alright.
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 8. You will learn how important sleep is and will feel all the sleepless nights in college catching up with you. No matter how much sleep you get over the weekend, you will try to negotiate with your alarm on Monday mornings. With the exception of a few God-given holidays, you will lose the negotiation battle miserably. On days you do succeed, you will be severely punished  with having to rush through the morning routine to make it to work on time.
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 9. You will learn how to cook. Perhaps what you make won’t be a culinary masterpiece, but as long as  it is edible, (and doesn’t lead to food poisoning) you’ve doing fine. There will be days you will hate every fast food joint in the city, every seemingly home-cooked dabba, and every other establishment attempting to serve you food. Embrace these days, because it’s on these days that you will attempt to put on a chef’s hat and apron (albeit imaginary ones), and take to the kitchen armed with spatulas and frying pans to battle it out with the spices and finally make peace with your stomach.
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 10. You will yearn to go study again. You won’t dread those nights you spent cramming for tests, you’ll look back on those as fond memories. If you do go back to study in your early 20s, you will realise it’s nothing like college. Classes are longer, nights are shorter, and holidays are far and few. But this time around, you’ll actually learn. You’ll apply yourself, you’ll take down notes, you’ll even get a full night’s sleep before a big evaluation.

Another Tag : 30 Qstns : Me & Him :) #Love

For lack of not being able to go out. For lack of being bored.. We took this stupid 30 Qstns together.. n.. uhmm…it wasn’t that bad 🙂 So Let’s begin.. My Answers / His Answers ————————————————– 1) When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought? My hair has grown longer / My hair is looking worst than the last time 2) How much cash do you have in your wallet right now? 800 bucks/ 100 rs n that 1 re coin given by me 3) What’s a word that rhymes with DOOR? Floor / Bore 4) Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone? No phone L / A friend called Duggu 5) What is your favorite ring tone on your phone? Ye Dooriyan – Instrumental (Movie : Love Aaj Kal) / Andorid-porn 6)What are you wearing right now? Green Kurti n Jeans / cream color shirt n jeans 7) Label yourself? His / Good-boy (yeah-rite) 8) Name the brand of the shoes you’re currently own? Inc 5 / Nike 9) Bright or Dark Room? mrng – bright room with colors- afternoon onwards – dark room with dim lights / Dark with lots of small colourfull lights 10) What do you think about the person who took this survey with you? him.. i dont like him.. / Shes hot n cute at the same time N I love her more than nythg 11) What does your watch look like? *gabbar style laughter * a simple rectangle dial with black belt / looks like Her (Cheesy) 12) What were you doing at midnight last night? Studying.. sorry.. trying to study/ watching a match on tv 13) What did your last text message you received on your cell say? How r you.. Call me back / me cutting ke liye gaya hu vo 14) What’s a word that you say a lot? Dumb / Hmmmmm 15)Who told you he/she loved you last? He did à / ß She did 16) Last furry thing you touched? Does my hair count? / A colony dog by her name 19) Your favourite age so far 24, It was a very special year. / 21 18) What was the last thing you said to someone? uffffff / broe ho raha hai 19) The last song you listened to? The Readon – Hoobastank / Lean on – Major LAzer 20) Where did you live in 1987? Matunga , Mumbai L (I miss it)* / F-type blocks , parel, mumbai *he sent me a I miss u after readin this.. **blush-blush** 21) Are you jealous of anyone? A l’il of a “friend” of his who gets to spend time with him..n ot her fault / People whose name begins with N.. 22) Is anyone jealous of you? I’m sure there must be few. / May-be 23) Name three things that you have in your bag/with you at all times? Phone / Wallet / My ring / Deo , a book n id card 24) What’s your favourite town/city? Mumbai / Mumbai.. coz I stay here.. cheesy :p 25) When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it? March 2015 , (His b’day) didn’t mail it.. / to a friend, as a kid.. 26) Can you change the oil on a car? Never tried./ No 27) Your first love/big crush: What is the last thing you heard about him/her? You wanna know about the first love or the first crush? Ok I’ll answer both. First love – – The Boy Who called me sugar.. havent spoken to him in a year. / The owner of this blog.. last thing.. she loves me J First Big Crush – – College,Last heard, he’s in Banaglore & happy / dsnt remm Much.. 28) Does anything hurt on your body right now? My head from lack of caffeine. I need a coffee ! / Neck L 29) What is your current desktop picture? Mom-Dad’s picture / 30) Have you been in love? Best part about it ? Yes.. yes.. it makes me look forward to tomorrows.. even in bad times / Yes – The best part is when someone loves u back and thee feeling of being complete 🙂 204709f6fdb000a3241237faf9f901ea (1)

Start a New Life !

Ananya was born in a traditional Brahmin family where, girls couldn’t sit next to their elders and faces were still covered with Ghungat(Veil)..However, Ananya was the black sheep of the family..She chose a career which no-one approved of. She was a true work-a-holic and worked for nights which again, created issues in her family as “ladkiyan der raat tak kaam nahi karti’. She had believed that you live life only once and she wanted to live it completely.. but she knew she didn’t wanna hurt anyone.. So, the live-life-at-my-own-terms Ananya was often pushed away giving place to the bhartiya-nari Ananya.. It was a ok-ok kindda life, until, she fell in Love with Krish. He was the friend who had seen her cry over heartbreaks and loved her then. He had seen her at her worst and loved her then. HE had simply loved her at all phases of life. IT took her a lot of time and arguments with herself to finally accept her Love for him.. bcoz she knew it wasn’t gonna be easy with him.. they had a 4 year age gap with her being on the elder side, cast differences, their parents were, almost, full of hatred for each other.. ughh ! but everytime he saw her.. it felt like the world stop and they knew it was worth it.. Then the unfortunate happened, she was married to a guy of her parent’s choice. She hated the guy but her dad’s ill health and family pressure made her succumb to the marriage. It took her just a week to realize it was her biggest mistake of her life. She confronted to her parents of her un-happiness only to realize that they don’t/won’t understand..For her parent’s happiness..she gave it another shot..6 months of a dead relationship..She knew it was a mistake but she thought she owed her parents that much.. 6 months later: Packed Bag. Teary Eyes. Anger. Alone.It’s over. This is not gonna work, ever. Whatever the reason might be.. none of the two people involved deserve a relationship which is empty. Maybe things might just get worse from here. Being Divorced is not easy and definitely not for the fairer sex but being in a house and regretting it every moment is worse than that. No matter how difficult, turning the page may seem like.. It’s time to start over..It’s time to start a new Life 🙂 Current Day: Setting up our new home.. White & Blue Curtains ? What Say? and white walls ? Krish just doesn’t help :/ lazy bones ! Ok, Krish is ordering some pizza, while I am thanking God for him and our Home. We looked this place at Housing.com !! It’s perfect for our New Life ! It’s actually more than perfect 🙂 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1FXdCjk505w

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